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Academic glory doesn鈥檛 always pave the way for a well-lived life

Every time my two high school-aged kids give me their report cards or ask me to sign off on their course selections for the next year, I feel like a hypocrite. I want my kids to take challenging classes, and I value their academic success so I expect them to take some Advanced Placement classes. But I know from both research and my own experience that academic glory doesn鈥檛 always pave the way for a well-lived life.

When I was a superintendent, I stated publicly many times that if I had to choose between my kids being straight-A students and average people or being great people and average students, I鈥檇 choose the latter. (Admittedly, as a white male living in an affluent suburb, I have the luxury of being able to make that choice as my kids have access to enormous social capital and benefit from white privilege. There are loads of white people who graduated with average grades who were granted access to quality higher education options and had doors open for them postgraduation, while for many Latinx and black high school graduates, stellar grades are essential.)

Yet I have this gnawing sense that the same metrics I used as a superintendent to promote equity and high standards for all kids and that I use to push my own children to succeed are a narrow slice of the whole pie they鈥檒l need to thrive in the future. And because I have little information about how my own children are being prepared for anything other than academics, I rely on what鈥檚 in front of me: lots and lots of homework and grades on report cards.

To add a layer of complexity to my internal debate, I鈥檝e had a change of heart about Advanced Placement classes after seeing my own children鈥檚 experiences. I鈥檝e long felt AP classes are too rote and based on memorization and regurgitation. Then the 2016 election happened. My daughter was taking the AP government course at the time. In my house, and when visiting with friends and family, we constantly discuss politics. I noticed she would pipe up about various political issues with a reference to some particular fact about how our government works. At one point, while walking the dog, she replied to something my youngest child said, 鈥淲ell of course it鈥檚 that way, we have a bicameral system 鈥� duh.鈥�

The teenage-girl snark couldn鈥檛 mask the content knowledge she鈥檚 amassed from being part of AP. I鈥檝e seen the same thing happen with her appreciation for and knowledge about the environment through AP Environmental Science, and my older son, who鈥檚 one year behind her in high school, has an increasingly sophisticated view of our current political climate and the cable news debates through the lens of his AP government class.

My skepticism has turned into appreciation for the rich content they鈥檝e learned, regardless of how they鈥檙e learning it. And truth be told, part of me appreciates the discipline they鈥檝e developed by having to study incredibly hard to master that content, even when they鈥檙e sometimes miserable from the stress of learning how to juggle life as a teenager today

A Balancing Act

The problem we鈥檙e trying to solve in public education today is to graduate all children with the knowledge, skills and dispositions to embrace an increasingly complex world on their own terms. This requires that adults learn new ways of engaging students and helping them develop and practice the competencies they鈥檒l need as adults: cooperation, collaboration, analytical thinking, problem solving, communication, empathy.

The development of these skills must complement the deep content knowledge and subject-area expertise that鈥檚 required to succeed today. I have no clue how my children鈥檚 schools are going beyond academics. The 鈥渟tress busters鈥� club, Friday puppy-petting during lunch and e-mails to parents and students about mindfulness seem pro forma, even if well-intended.

I don鈥檛 know if it鈥檚 fair for me to expect schools to show all that they鈥檙e doing academically while also attending to the human side of adolescent development. Given the orientation of American public education for the last generation that鈥檚 hinged solely on standardized test scores, perhaps it鈥檚 foolish of me to even ask. Moreover, while I like to think that I鈥檝e played a small role in promoting social-emotional skills, student engagement and the importance of relationships, I鈥檝e also used AP and standardized testing to organize school systems around equity.

When my own kids walk across the stage in their caps and gowns over the next few years, I know as a dad I鈥檒l be proud of them for the people they鈥檙e becoming. But if their academic success is lagging too much, I know I鈥檒l have a tinge of remorse that maybe I didn鈥檛 push them hard enough or provide necessary supports. As a father, I can live with that paradox. As an educator, it鈥檚 a heck of a lot tougher.